Strength-based discipline is about working with a child to discover what’s blocking his progress and helping him get back on track. Whereas typical discipline techniques tell children what not to do, strength-based discipline goes a step further, letting our kids know what they can do—reminding them of strengths they possess to address the problem. We show them how to reach within to find the resources for change, rebound from setbacks, focus their attention on repairing the problem, and move in a more positive direction.
There are times, of course, when you’ve got to confront weakness head-on. Maybe your child struggles in an academic subject but needs to achieve a certain grade in order to meet his educational goals. I wasn't good at math, but I had to do well enough to get into graduate school for psychology, survive statistics, and get my PhD, so I set about getting extra tutoring. Or maybe your child is impatient (like my daughter Emily) and needs to learn to manage those feelings better. After all, we all have weaknesses. My husband Matt and I think patience is such an important trait that we are working on it directly with Emily.Read More